Intensive Marathon Couples Therapy
Gottman Marathon Couples Therapy is a dynamic alternative to traditional weekly sessions in Gottman Method Couples Therapy. It’s a condensed and focused approach to relationship counselling that will provide you with the time you need to address specific issues and get your relationship back on track quickly. In this powerful approach to relieving couple distress, you and your partner will meet with a highly trained and experienced therapist for two consecutive days and engage in intensive couples therapy for up to 8 hours per day.
Trish and John are currently the only Certified Gottman Therapists in Australia who are trained and approved to utilise the entire Gottman Love Lab process with couples. What this means is that all couples who participate in Marathon Couples Therapy with either of them will receive a written scientific evaluation of their relationship powered by the Gottman Love Lab. This comprehensive relationship assessment will pinpoint the areas in which you can achieve the greatest growth so you can move forward to a place of strength, reconnection, and hope.
You will have the time to talk in-depth about the struggles and challenges of the relationship that simply cannot happen in the traditional style of couples therapy. There is time to process past injuries that have never healed, and time to understand how these injuries have impacted the relationship. There is time to learn and practice new communication skills to help you have more productive conversations. There’s time to rebuild.
The therapist will provide an environment of safety for both partners. You will be treated with dignity and respect, without judgment, throughout the process. Couples who have experienced this form of therapy usually describe it as life-changing and transformative.
Marathon Couples Therapy offers practical benefits as well. It’s a good fit for couples who want a more intensive experience of therapy and for couples whose schedules do not allow for them to go to weekly therapy sessions. And finally, it’s a great fit for couples who need to get help immediately.
During your marathon, you work together with your therapist to learn new skills to:
- Transform inevitable relationship conflicts so you can build solid bridges between the two of you
- Deepen your understanding of one another
- Repair old hurts and resentments
- Unearth the values and life purpose you share
- Strengthen your friendship
- Spice up your intimacy
Prior to your marathon, you will each be emailed a number of questionnaires for each of you to complete. Sometimes these can feel onerous to complete but, these questionnaires help us to understand both your individual histories and the history of your relationship as well as some of the main issues that have developed over time and bring you to couples therapy now. It also helps us fast track your therapy. The more detail you include in these questionnaires the better we will be able to get to the heart of matters. These questionnaires are completed online using highly secure servers that conform to the requirements for medical information security and confidentiality. Only your therapist will have access to this information.
As part of The Love Lab experience, we will connect you to non-invasive physiological sensors so we can measure how fast your heart is beating, and how fast your blood is flowing to various parts of your body. We will ask you to engage in an events of the week conversation and a conflict conversation We will video record your conversations so we can code your facial expressions and emotions, second by second and collect data to determine what’s going on in your bodies.
Based on all of this information, along with your responses to our comprehensive relationship questionnaires, we will conduct an analysis of your interaction patterns, strengths and challenges. These findings will be shared with you so that we can collaboratively identify specific outcome goals for your relationship.
Following your marathon we will recommend a follow-up program designed to meet your particular needs. This might include:
- a few appointments either in person or via web conferencing;
- a referral to a therapist in your local area;
- a referral to a couple workshop.
Couples who have engaged in this process in the past have reported that while the 2 days were taxing, they were able to process a range of unresolved issues, "leave the baggage behind" and go home with a renewed sense of commitment, closeness and hope for building a closer, more satisfying and intimate relationship together.
Once you have made a decision to engage in marathon therapy it is very important that you try to “call a truce” on any on-going issues in your relationship for the time being. Marathon therapy is a commitment to rebuild your relationship and the process begins right now. Whatever issues you are currently struggling with will be addressed over our two days together in a way that allows both of you to feel heard, understood and validated. Effectively, what this means is that for the next few weeks until we get started you can ‘shelve’ your problems knowing that they will be addressed then, and now is an opportunity for you to have a break from working on those concerns and instead focus on what you would like to build once we have effectively dealt with them together.
The cost of your marathon including the thorough pre-marathon assessment process, 2 full intensive days working on your relationship in a safe, calm, professional and private environment with the full attention of one of our highly trained and experienced clinicians, a toolkit full of resources and information to take home that assists you to continue to deepen your emotional connection and master the skills for constructively managing conflict. Marathons conducted Monday to Friday cost $4000, marathons conducted on weekends cost $5000. $500 is paid as a deposit to confirm your dates and is refundable (less costs already incurred) up to one week prior to your dates. Please note: travel and accommodation costs are the responsibility of the clients. For more information please email firstname.lastname@example.org
We have both male and female therapists who are both Certified Gottman Marital Therapists and have completed additional training in Emotion Focussed Therapy for Couples. You can find more information on our About Us Page