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What is TRUST?  By John Flanagan   AMHSW   Certified Gottman Therapist, Master Trainer & Consultant

26 November 2021 /

We all know that trust is a critical ingredient for a successful relationship - but what do we actually know about trust and how is it built.

In his research, Dr John Gottman found that the basis of conflict for new couples - concerned trust: ‘Will you be there for me when I need you?’.

The building of trust is not instantaneous in relationships. It is created slowly over time through small acts of turning towards each other, being there for your partner and expressing compassion and empathy for one another’s feelings.

Interestingly in relationships, many conflicts concern the defining and building of trust. ‘Are you there for me when I call, when I am worried, upset, hurt or angry?’.

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When childhood trauma presents as part of couple distress.  By Trish Purnell-Webb Clinical Psychologist & Certified Gottman Therapist, Master Trainer & Consultant

18 October 2021 / For therapists / Gottman Marital Therapy

When childhood trauma presents as part of couple distress.

Imagine a couple in their late 40’s, they have teenage children. The presenting problem is described as a parenting problem. Helen (not her real name) reports that when the kids are arguing, yelling, playing loud music or rumbling – making thumping noises, Tony (not his real name) “over-reacts”.

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How to guide couples to improve their relationships through Gottman Therapy Level 1 Training

18 October 2021 / For therapists / Relationship Help / Relationship Institute Australasia / Gottman Marital Therapy / Art & Science of Love Couples Workshops / Bringing Baby Home

We know what makes relationships work and what doesn’t.

Let us teach you, as therapists, how to guide couples to improve their relationships through Gottman Therapy Level 1 Training.

The Gottman Therapy has clear and specific goals:
-  increasing connection and friendship,
-  addressing conflict constructively and reducing negative interaction,
-  building a life of shared meaning together.

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Level 1 Clinical Training - Gottman Method Couples Therapy - 18th & 19th November 2021

13 September 2021 / For therapists / Relationship Help / Relationship Institute Australasia / Art & Science of Love Couples Workshops

Level 1 Clinical Training - Gottman Method Couples Therapy provides a comprehensive, research-based, professional development pathway in relationship therapy excellence. There are four brilliant levels of training that include a deep dive into research, theory, assessment, formulation, interventions and skills development. Gottman training is world-renowned and highly valued.

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The Truth about Intimacy - by Trish Purnell-Webb Certified Gottman Therapist, Master Trainer and Consultant

26 July 2021 /

Sex and intimacy are not the same thing. Sometimes sex can be intimate and personal, sometimes it can be impersonal and without intimacy. The truth about intimacy is that is built and maintained by a whole range of activities.

A big part of intimacy is quality time. When we meet someone we are attracted to, we want to spend time with them, we become a bit obsessed with them, we want to know everything we can about them. We want to get to know them on a deeper level than we are interested in with other people we meet. That deeper level is one level of intimacy. Let’s call it the ‘best friend’ level of intimacy. To deepen this we make time to hang out with them, we watch them in shared moments, we learn how they behave in social situations, what they enjoy, what they don’t. We learn about their values, their life experiences, their beliefs, wants, needs and desires. As we learn these things we deepen our intimate knowledge of them. Either we like what we learn or we don’t.

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One of the most important pieces of advice about relationships conflict.  By John Flanagan Certified Gottman Therapist, Master Trainer and Consultant

14 May 2021 /

If I was pushed to give what I believe is one of the most important pieces of advice about relationships conflict it is this… ACCEPTANCE FIRST, CHANGE SECOND

Fundamentally accepting your partner for who they are, their beliefs, lived experiences, personality and yes, even their flaws, is critical in conflict and for relationship success. Interestingly, the more couples try to change each other, the more likely they are to resist and become more embedded in their positions. Here in lies the relationship paradox—the more I feel fundamentally accepted and validated for who I am in my relationship, the greater the possibility of change occurring. However, if I feel misunderstood, not listened to or validated, the less likely change will occur. So here it is- listen, show understanding, validate and give empathy to your partner first and problem solve second is the key to successful conflict management and connection.

Our motto is this, “When you are in pain, in distress, experiencing negative emotion, my world stops, and I turn towards you and listen and understand with gentleness and compassion.”

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Why learn Gottman Therapy?  By John Flanagan Certified Gottman Therapist, Master Trainer and Consultant

14 May 2021 /

Gottman Relationship Therapy Training provides a comprehensive, research-based, professional development pathway in relationship therapy excellence. There are four brilliant levels of training that include a deep dive into research, theory, assessment, formulation, interventions and skills development. Gottman training is world renowned and highly valued.

If you are interested in:
• understanding what makes relationship works or fail,
• comprehending a research-based relationship theory that guides your work with couples,
• understanding comprehensive assessment and formulation of a couple’s strengths and issues,
• developing the skills to use a range of therapeutic interventions to manage conflict, build friendship and connection

Then this training is absolutely for you.

To begin the journey that will transform you couples practice, ‘Gottman Level : Bridging the Couple Chasm’ is a two-day introduction into Gottman research, theory and practice. Watch case videos of Julie Gottman working with a couple from the initial assessment, to managing and de-escalating conflict, building friendship and emotional connection/attunement and creating shared meaning.

Currently in the world, there are 26 Master Trainers and Consultants in Gottman Therapy. This group has honed their craft over many years and lead the Gottman training across all levels. Fortunately, in Australia there are two Master Trainer and Consultants, John Flanagan and Trish Purnell-Webb and they will be conducting a Gottman Level 1 training in July and November of 2021. During this training, Trish and John add a level of experience, depth and case examples that consolidate learning and create a highly enjoyable and informative professional development environment—so come and join them.

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The 4 Day Relationship Reboot. By John Flanagan Certified Gottman Therapist, Master Trainer and Consultant

29 March 2021 /

As we are making steps towards what resembles a normal existence: lockdowns and border closures are almost in the rear vision mirror. Restaurants, theatres, art galleries and theme parks have reopened. Australians as a whole have been remarkable in the way we have responded to the pandemic. Never before have mental health support services been so overwhelmed with individuals, couples and families seeking assistance for stress, anxiety, depression and relationship issues.

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Pursuer-Distancer-Dynamic. By Trish Purnell-Webb. Clinical Psychologist, Certified Gottman Therapist, Master Trainer & Consultant

25 February 2021 / For therapists / Relationship Help / Relationship Institute Australasia / Gottman Marital Therapy / Art & Science of Love Couples Workshops / Bringing Baby Home

A variety of experts such as Gottman, Johnson, and Tatkin, say one of the most common conflict cycles in relationships is the pursuer-distancer dynamic. In other words, if one partner becomes frustrated, agitated or (in extreme cases) aggressive - the other partner's reaction may be to become increasingly defensive and/or physically distant. This includes leaving the room, house, or neighbourhood.

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Staying Connected in 2021. By Trish Purnell-Webb. Clinical Psychologist, Certified Gottman Therapist, Master Trainer & Consultant

17 February 2021 / Relationship Help / Relationship Institute Australasia / Gottman Marital Therapy / Art & Science of Love Couples Workshops / Bringing Baby Home

Dr John Gottman says, “More relationships die by ice than by fire.”  What does he mean? Through Gottman’s research, he found that couples who stopped talking together, who were ‘too busy’ to make time for each other, or who simply ‘got on with the everyday business of life’, ended up emotionally disconnected from each other. 

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