Gottman Marathon Relationship Therapy is an immersive, evidence-based approach to relationship counselling developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. This unique format condenses months of traditional weekly therapy sessions into an extended intensive experience, typically spanning two consecutive days. It is designed to provide couples with focused, personalised support to address their specific relationship issues, downregulate negativity, build connection and friendship, and create a stronger sense of shared meaning, goals, and future.
Gottman Relationship Therapy is growing in popularity, internationally and here in Australia, and there are very good reasons for this. It is one of, if not the most, research-based methodologies for couples therapy.
It is an effective approach for improving relationships, providing a comprehensive framework, resources, and skills to help couples develop strong friendships, manage and resolve conflicts, create shared meaning, and build and maintain trust and commitment.
The marathon therapy begins with a thorough assessment and feedback phase. Every relationship brings its own unique signature and complexity, and it is essential that the therapist carefully and accurately understands the couple’s areas of strength, challenges, co-morbidities, family histories, and attachment styles. A thorough assessment creates a comprehensive narrative—a picture, if you will—of the relationship. Through this formulation, the therapist, in collaboration with the couple, develops shared treatment goals that create the strategic direction for meaningful marathon therapy.
After the assessment, the therapist uses tailored interventions based on the Gottman Method to address critical issues. These interventions focus on both the underlying patterns to create deeper, lasting repair and on helping the couple develop practical skills and tools to strengthen their relationship long term. Couples learn how to communicate effectively, regulate emotions during conflict, repair missteps and hurts, build trust, and nurture intimacy. The therapist guides them in practising these strategies in real-time, helping couples address difficult topics in a safe, supportive environment.
After the marathon, follow-up sessions are scheduled to ensure the effective uptake of the new skills and strategies that were introduced during the intensive sessions. These follow-up consultations prove essential in preventing relapse and reinforcing the changes achieved during the marathon.
The intensive format offers unique advantages:
- It allows couples to make significant progress quickly, bypassing the limitations of shorter, weekly sessions where momentum can be lost between meetings.
- Marathon Therapy is ideal for couples who need urgent intervention, such as those facing infidelity or major life transitions.
- It is particularly effective for couples who may have limited time for therapy due to busy schedules, travel, or geographical constraints.
- The extended duration allows the therapist to delve deeper into underlying issues and patterns without the pressure of ending sessions prematurely. This focused attention fosters breakthroughs that might otherwise take weeks or months to achieve.
- Couples leave the experience equipped with tools and insights they can apply immediately to improve their relationship.
Gottman Marathon Therapy is suitable for couples in various stages of their relationship—whether they are in distress, struggling with unresolved conflicts, or simply seeking to strengthen their connection. It is not only for couples on the brink of separation but also for those looking to rebuild intimacy and communication.
However, Gottman Marathon Therapy is not suitable for couples experiencing the following issues:
- Serious violence
- Untreated active addiction
- Major mental health concerns
- Undisclosed ongoing affairs
- Current high-level suicidal ideation
Gottman Marathon Couples Therapy provides couples with a condensed, focused, and accelerated path to healing and growth. By combining the Gottmans’ evidence-based interventions with an immersive, intensive format, couples can break negative cycles, repair past hurts, restore trust and commitment, and create a stronger future together.